On Beauty & the Wasteland - v.4 / issue 7 - We Can Love Each Other Better: a Yinvitation

On Beauty & the Wasteland 
V. 4 / issue 7

We Can Love Each Other Better: a Yinvitation

“Loving justice between a man and a woman does not stand a chance when other men’s manhood matter more. When a man has decided to love manhood more than justice, there are predictable consequences in all his relationships with women…learning to live as a man of conscience means deciding that your loyalty to the people whom you love is always more important than whatever lingering loyalty you may sometimes feel to other men’s judgement on your manhood.“

- from The End of Manhood by John Stoltenberg 

as quoted by bell hooks in All About Love.

To me, this feels bigger than our sex, men and women. I know, for me, I have both masculine (yang) and feminine (yin) aspects of me. I wonder if you can relate?

What is the relationship between THE MASCULINE (yang) and THE FEMININE (yin) inside of us? 

Yang Can Love Yin Better! 

(Yin may be able to love better, too, and right now, 

I want to focus on Yang loving Yin better.) 

If you resonate, I invite you all, people of all genders, on a soul search to discover the Yang-Yin relationship inside of you.

(If you would appreciate further explanation on these terms, please see reference at the end of this page.)

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I’ll go first: 

What I am finding in myself is that how my yang treats these yin aspects of myself is how my yang treats these aspects in another.

So, to be even more self-revealing, my yang has been guarding my yin parts by sequestering them away. My yang is ultimately isolating, ignoring, and abandoning my yin while hypervigilently seeking out and attending to and even totally identifying with yang energy at times and ignoring yin.

My yin and yang are needing to be with some pretty intense emotions together right now, because, my yin part aches, wretches, wails, rages and yet also so much loves the yang part. My yang feels disappointed with himself and inadequate, and also, so much loves the yin part.

They sit together and hold each other allowing for the pain, feeling it together. The yang has to be able to be with the harm he has inadvertently caused. And needs to meet the yin in this pain, repair with her. My yang has harmed my yin while doing their best to protect. This is as far as I have come.

I am only beginning to understand and feel deeply moved by this dynamic within myself. Maybe if we can respectfully dialogue about and really feel and understand each other within these dynamics, we can all learn to love ourselves and each other a little bit better?

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For reference on yin yang: 

https://youtu.be/6gIMVxFen_A?si=mHKYCn2SzBt6NOr8